Very *ahem* weird dream...

[LovelyLeo]

So, I'm not going to go into full dream detail here, cause I think it'd be irrelevant, but for the last month or so I've decided I don't want to date or get married, have kids, ect anymore. Well, last night I had a very vivid sexual dream about a man I don't know or have ever seen in waking life. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone thinks this is tied to my recent decision and if possible how I can stop them from happening again? Cause if this continues, my decision not to date is gonna be hard to stick to.

[reikihealer83]

I am just venturing a guess here but your mind might be telling you to not jump into either side right away. It may also be asking you to look at why you came to that decision. Just some thoughts.

[LovelyLeo]

I am just venturing a guess here but your mind might be telling you to not jump into either side right away. It may also be asking you to look at why you came to that decision. Just some thoughts.

I have been going back and forth with this decision for years now, I just now made what I thought was a solid decision. I supose my mind might be battling my heart? Thanks for your imput! Any ideas on how to make them stop?

[reikihealer83]

Honestly LovelyLeo,

I am at a loss here. You could do some meditation and that may help. I am sorry but I am not sure what else but it could be the two organs doing battle.

[Lily Cantodea]

So, I'm not going to go into full dream detail here, cause I think it'd be irrelevant, but for the last month or so I've decided I don't want to date or get married, have kids, ect anymore. Well, last night I had a very vivid sexual dream about a man I don't know or have ever seen in waking life. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone thinks this is tied to my recent decision and if possible how I can stop them from happening again? Cause if this continues, my decision not to date is gonna be hard to stick to.

I've had explicit sexual dreams before, and yours could be for any number of reasons. It most likely has nothing to do with your choice. I made my choice when I was little that I wasn't going to get married or have kids, and that dating would be put on the back burner until I achieved my goals. Then years later I had a few sexual dreams, but it had nothing to do with the choices I made. I've had dreams where I've had sex with celebrities, and I think that all has to do with my drive to succeed, not sexual fantasy.

Sexual dreams can be literal, meaning that they can indicate your repressed sexual needs, in which case it could probably be related to your choice. The partner, someone you've never met before, probably signifies some aspects that you need to incorporate into your own character. It can also signify that your feminine and masculine sides are balanced.

In short: there could be many interpretations to your dream, not all of them having to do with or stemming from your choice. Dreams are usually filled with symbolism; not many regular dreams (I'm not talking about nightmares after a traumatic experience) have literal meaning.

At the end of the day, it's up to you to decide the meaning. If you need to, try to do some dream work or meditate on it. Look up dream symbolism and meanings, and see if you can apply them to your own dreams.

[LovelyLeo]

Honestly LovelyLeo,

I am at a loss here. You could do some meditation and that may help. I am sorry but I am not sure what else but it could be the two organs doing battle.

Thanks, I'll try meditating.

[LovelyLeo]

So, I'm not going to go into full dream detail here, cause I think it'd be irrelevant, but for the last month or so I've decided I don't want to date or get married, have kids, ect anymore. Well, last night I had a very vivid sexual dream about a man I don't know or have ever seen in waking life. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone thinks this is tied to my recent decision and if possible how I can stop them from happening again? Cause if this continues, my decision not to date is gonna be hard to stick to.

I've had explicit sexual dreams before, and yours could be for any number of reasons. It most likely has nothing to do with your choice. I made my choice when I was little that I wasn't going to get married or have kids, and that dating would be put on the back burner until I achieved my goals. Then years later I had a few sexual dreams, but it had nothing to do with the choices I made. I've had dreams where I've had sex with celebrities, and I think that all has to do with my drive to succeed, not sexual fantasy.

Sexual dreams can be literal, meaning that they can indicate your repressed sexual needs, in which case it could probably be related to your choice. The partner, someone you've never met before, probably signifies some aspects that you need to incorporate into your own character. It can also signify that your feminine and masculine sides are balanced.

In short: there could be many interpretations to your dream, not all of them having to do with or stemming from your choice. Dreams are usually filled with symbolism; not many regular dreams (I'm not talking about nightmares after a traumatic experience) have literal meaning.

At the end of the day, it's up to you to decide the meaning. If you need to, try to do some dream work or meditate on it. Look up dream symbolism and meanings, and see if you can apply them to your own dreams.

So, I guess I will definetely meditate and do some dream research. Thanks for your imput. I never thought about the whole masculine and feminine balance thing...thanks. I'm definetely going to try and get to the root of this, cause it's driving me crazy! lol

[Y0m]

I've had these dreams after making the same decision.
Also, I had dreams of eating meat after deciding to be vegitarian.

In my opinion it is your subconcious worrying about it.
After a while they will pass.

[LovelyLeo]

I've had these dreams after making the same decision.
Also, I had dreams of eating meat after deciding to be vegitarian.

In my opinion it is your subconcious worrying about it.
After a while they will pass.

Thanks, Yom. I hope they do.

[Y0m]

Everything arises and passes away. Like the simple breath.
The only thing outside of this is the eternal devine truth of the spirit.

My love.

[LovelyLeo]

Everything arises and passes away. Like the simple breath.
The only thing outside of this is the eternal devine truth of the spirit.

My love.

True. Thanks Yom.

[CrabbyCrab]

From MY experiences, I would think that the reason you are having these sorts of dreams is because you are not committed to your decision to give up these things.

I once had a huge falling out with my very best friend. For two years we barely spoke. After about two years she began to play the role of sidekick in my dreams. This seemed strange considering I never spoke to her. I thought about it, and realized that I wasn't angry anymore. I stubbornly WANTED to hate her for the rest of eternity, but my dreams helped me see that that was no longer how I felt.

Now, this is an EXTREMELY personal question and I do not actually expect you to give an answer. I am simply asking because it might give you something to consider. It might not, considering I know nothing about your situation or the reasons behind your decision to give up on a spouse and children. Anyway: Why do you have to make this decision? Why not just see how your life goes? If you meet someone fantastic, great! Then you can make decisions about marriage and children. If not, don't worry about any of it. I just feel that by making up your mind to not date or find someone to marry you might prevent yourself from finding LOVE.

[LovelyLeo]

From MY experiences, I would think that the reason you are having these sorts of dreams is because you are not committed to your decision to give up these things.

I once had a huge falling out with my very best friend. For two years we barely spoke. After about two years she began to play the role of sidekick in my dreams. This seemed strange considering I never spoke to her. I thought about it, and realized that I wasn't angry anymore. I stubbornly WANTED to hate her for the rest of eternity, but my dreams helped me see that that was no longer how I felt.

Now, this is an EXTREMELY personal question and I do not actually expect you to give an answer. I am simply asking because it might give you something to consider. It might not, considering I know nothing about your situation or the reasons behind your decision to give up on a spouse and children. Anyway: Why do you have to make this decision? Why not just see how your life goes? If you meet someone fantastic, great! Then you can make decisions about marriage and children. If not, don't worry about any of it. I just feel that by making up your mind to not date or find someone to marry you might prevent yourself from finding LOVE.

You may be right as I have always wanted to get married, have children, ect. since I was a little girl. It is something that's hard for me to give up on, but I feel I must. Giving up on it is something I've thought about for years, and I just realized that maybe having a man in my life wasn't right for me. Lately, I've been thinking about becoming a "sister witch" since there's no such thing as a wiccan nun. So, I suppose this is something I may struggle with for a while like Yom has said. Thank you for your imput!