the boy i love is in trouble

[advice plz]

i love him so much but he's a pot-head and an acoholic and my cousin (who liveis where near him which is about 2 hours away) says its getting worse. ALL i want to do is get him away from that enviorment and back to me. i miss him and i dont want to lose him he's the 3rd part of me that i had to find to e whole agin. i don't know what id do if i lost him to that life.

[Artie]

Unfortunately, there isn't much that you can do. He's chosen this path for himself, and he's the only person who can get himself out of this mess. However, there are things that you can do to help edge him along. To avoid having to actually use proper grammar, I'll make a brief list of suggestions.

1. Get your cousin to yell at him.
2. Call him and ask him exactly WHY he feels that he needs to abuse alcohol and drugs.
3. Tell somebody, and get him help. The faster he can get help, the sooner he can be with you again.

If you don't mind me asking, is this a long distance relationship?

[Ravencry]

I'm kinda offended by the term pot-head. There is nothing addicting about marijuana, and as a Wiccan, you should understand that marijuana comes from the Mother Goddess herself to help her people. Its been proven to stop cancer, and to fight leukemia! I smoke marijuana, so I beg you kindly, please don't use that term. Just say that he smokes too much weed. Sorry to be a pain in the arse!

For the alcoholism, I believe that when people are hurting themselves, whether they ask for it or not, a spell can always help. To eliminate an unwanted habit, make a poppet of him out of cloth, straw, or a carved candle.
Make symbols or words on it to indicate what you want to release forever, allowing anger to build
within you that he has practiced this unwanted behavior. Call upon Pluto or Hecate to assist
your resolve to fully carry out change in his life.
Then, using a safe container such as an iron cauldron or metal bowl, anoint the poppet with a
few drops of oil of myrrh, pennyroyal, rosemary, or rue, and then carefully set it on fire, visualizing
the release of his unwanted habit or trait forever.
Burn the poppet to ashes, and then take the ashes to a place where you have no need to
be at any time soon. Bury it, turn firmly, and walk away. Don't look Back.

It won't happen overnight, but it happens slowly. I know because I have given this spell to a few people and they said over a few months, the person did quit their addiction.

[john85uk]

Great spell seems ancient and powerful. Would this also be good to do under a waning moon?

In my experience once you've done everything you can for a person with an addiction it's best to leave them be and get on with your own life as difficult as this may appear at the time. This will stop you going into a depression which won't help anybody and also will give him the time and space to choose his own path in life (as artielove96 mentioned). Just make sure he knows you're there for him or at least that he is not alone. Would be interesting to find out how serious his addictions are? Does the drink make him make a fool out of himself or is he violent and dangerous? Is the weed making him extremely paranoid? How much stress is he under?

[Kitty]

I don't know how old you are but it could very well just be a phase he's going through - many teenagers or people in their early 20s lapse judgement for a while due to the stresses of growing up and come out of it fine at the other end
also there is a big difference imo between physical addiction and drinking too much
try to be with him in person as well and show him that there are good things in his life - help him dispell the things that he is unhappy with rather than reprimanding him - he's likely to become defensive
xx

[advice plz]

I'm kinda offended by the term pot-head. There is nothing addicting about marijuana, and as a Wiccan, you should understand that marijuana comes from the Mother Goddess herself to help her people. Its been proven to stop cancer, and to fight leukemia! I smoke marijuana, so I beg you kindly, please don't use that term. Just say that he smokes too much weed. Sorry to be a pain in the arse!

For the alcoholism, I believe that when people are hurting themselves, whether they ask for it or not, a spell can always help. To eliminate an unwanted habit, make a poppet of him out of cloth, straw, or a carved candle.
Make symbols or words on it to indicate what you want to release forever, allowing anger to build
within you that he has practiced this unwanted behavior. Call upon Pluto or Hecate to assist
your resolve to fully carry out change in his life.
Then, using a safe container such as an iron cauldron or metal bowl, anoint the poppet with a
few drops of oil of myrrh, pennyroyal, rosemary, or rue, and then carefully set it on fire, visualizing
the release of his unwanted habit or trait forever.
Burn the poppet to ashes, and then take the ashes to a place where you have no need to
be at any time soon. Bury it, turn firmly, and walk away. Don't look Back.

It won't happen overnight, but it happens slowly. I know because I have given this spell to a few people and they said over a few months, the person did quit their addiction.

im sorry it offended you i didn't mean anything by it.im kinda fresh into wicca so im kinda new to things.and thank you for your unconditinal (sp?) help ^-^

[Ravencry]

No problem No need to apologise, I just wanted to let you know.

[advice plz]

i love him and im 14 about to be 15 and he's just turned 18 and he's kinda afraid to love me . he thinks that because of his bloodline hes bound to hurt me. SO we are in a very weird thing thats been going on for 3 years now.i don't feel like i have the right to tell him what to do because he technicly (sp?) isnt mine at the moment. he had a pretty hard life his dad was mean to him alot and his parents are seperated.i don't have a clue about what to do with him. hes amazeing and sweet when he's sober and he's useually sober arownd me and my family so im just trying to get him back down here with us like he used to be. he wants help he's just scared. i will try the spells provided he needs all of the help he can get .thank you all for yor help.blessed be.

[Kitty]

you could try to be with him as often as you can without smothering him if it means he's more likely to be sober
xx

[advice plz]

i am with him as much as i can be but the only person that knows about this relationship other than me and him is my cousin. he knows my feelings and returns them in a way but we aren't "together" because hes afraid of tainting me . im glad that he cares about me but he doesn't understand that im not easily tainted ^-^'''