Is he under my spell or does he actually like me?

[vampira]

Okay, so i was thinking last night about this guy i met on Friday, and i realized, how unbelievably close it was, to when i cast a spell to find the perfect man. I know this sounds rather silly, and i'm probably just being stupid, but is it possible that the only reason he's with me is because of the spell? Or does those kind of spell just attract someone who does like you?

[fatalism]

Well, not to be cynical, but most men are only with girls because they think that the girls have pretty tits, especially if you've only known him for about a week. But otherwise, the premise of the spell seems innocent enough, so no, I wouldn't say that it was due to the spell.

[vampira]

Thank you, because i am really, really, really against putting someone against their free will, so i would've hate to have been someone who had done that......

[Wolf*]

Well, not to be cynical, but most men are only with girls because they think that the girls have pretty tits, especially if you've only known him for about a week.

okay, I take offense to that....

[vampira]

^ Yeah, i have to admit, that is a little harsh. He doesn't like me just because of my tits. And not all guys are like that.

[[Kristin]]

I also was offended by that comment. What surprises me is that more have not commented on that post.

[Elem]

I'm male, yet don't take offense.. I know far too many jerks like that to try and defend my side of the species .

I think she was just trying to say be careful, more than anything.. And didn't really mean to offend anybody.

Elem

[fatalism]

I'm just going to say that it is a scientific fact that men are more stimulated by visuals than women are. In addition, since she said "last Friday," really now, how many men are there who you meet and fall in love with you within a week for reasons purely based off of personality? Finally, I'll have to bring up age...she's 13 and in 7th grade. Boys are really horny when they're 13-16ish just as a general statement.

Not to say that every man is like that, but girls should be more aware that not every guy they meet is going to like them for their conversation skills.

[vampira]

^ I realize that, and, just a side note, he's....not in love with me. Lol.

Thanks for the help.

[Nackin]

Umm leaving the question of guys as jerks aside, whether or not he is attracted to you only due to a spell depends on what kind of spell was used. It also depends on whether or not it worked at all. From what you said, it sounds as if you did a nonspecific spell to just find the best guy for you. If you did it that way he isn't bound to you. It was more or less a finder spell. If you cast it at a specific person, then it is a binding spell. That kind of spell is not a good idea. Does that clarifuy things a bit?

[vampira]

No, it wasn't directed at him. I just did a finding spell. I cast it to find a love, and then i met him 2 days later.

[BlackenedRose*]

Well then the spell worked. You wanted to find a guy and a guy came along. Be comfortable in the fact that you got what you wanted.

BR

[Moon_Stone]

Yep- I agree.
And as long as you are happy with your naughty-bits, that's all that matters.

~BB~

[Nackin]

Its an agreement. A spell of that type just influences the right person to meet you. It doesn't make him like you. You did that all by yourself.

[moonlit]

Also you have to remember that there is no PERFECT guy lol

moonlit