parents are against my belifes

[Raven451]

Just a thought, as you say your parents go through your things...

My parents went through that stage, too - and almost no one ever looks in the sock drawer. My parents went through my bookshelves, my makeup, my clothes... but never my socks or underwear.

I must be weird....thats the first place I'd look in my sons drawer if I was a snoopy mom...Lucky for him I am not..LOL

Bright Blessings,

Lori

[Addalaide]

Sock draw is where i whould look if i had a reson to not trust my child...when i have one...but i agree put things in plain sight! Hideing things looks like your hideing things! Another choise to the glass for water whould be next time your at a yard sale or something, just absulutly fall in love with that adorable little glass cup! and tell them that it whould be so prety to put....sand? i donno...in it and it whould look so prety beside your...flowers? and so thay will know you have it, and you will put special little things in it, like moons and stars you know.

It was very hard for me to hide things, my father is a computer person so even if i wiped the history he could get back evey website i have ever been to.
Also keep and "art book" let them see you drawing, flowers, or animals in it, i'm sure if thay see whats in it at first, then thay wont want to go threw it latter because thay have already seen. dose that make any sence? every situation is differnt, my mother never whent threw my things, ever, i think she just was to lazy to walk up the stares. But some people are unfortunetly stuck with noisy parents. And if you thought your child was doing something unhealthy ( witch thay think this is probly a cry for help or something most likly) then you whould act apon it also right?

[Rein]

I think it's completely insane that anyone would be so closed minded that they would go through their child's stuff just to keep them away from something they love. I come from a long line a christians, but my parents are both extremely open minded about the supernatural. That is why it really pisses me off when I hear of people like this......

Your best bet is to sit down with your parents (if u can) and explain to them calmly about your practices. And if that doesn't work, ask them:

"How can you say something is evil when you don't understand it??"

That at least will get the wheels turning and make them think. (try quizzing them...make 'em believe they've made a huge mistake, which they have)

Kayako

[Pagansister]

I'm a beginner witch but i told my parents and they ignored me to begin with and then they came round to the idea and supported me. maybe if you told your parents that your gifts/powers are harmless they should start listening to you

[WolfWitch]

PAgansister: Oh that we all had such appathetic parents. When I was as young as some of you are, there's no way I'd have let my mom know that I was of the faith or craft. Heck, I'm 33 next month and Mom is 75 this weekend and she STILL doesn't know and she will go to her grave being none the wiser. Sometimes it's best if you aren't open about your beliefs. You have to be aware of the company you are in at any point and time.. I'm not saying be ashamed of what you feel and believe but, use discretion when talking as you don't know everyone and how they'll react.

Blessed be to all who need.

WW.

[Elem]

I've never told my parents, and nobody that I know in 'real life' (i.e. outside of on The Internet) knows of my Pagan orientation..

..Although that's mainly due to the fact that nobody's ever asked haha. People just assume that, thanks to my scientific background / lack of belief in a 'God' / Deity.. That I'm completely scientific and 'unreligious'.

If someone ever actually asked "So, what do you believe?" or "So I was wondering, what do you think about Paganism?".. Then I'd tell them. But, as I say, nobody questions any further once they know I don't believe in a God *shrug*.

The only people I'd probably never tell, although they'd never ask anyway.. Are my parents. They wouldn't understand it , although they didn't care about my massive interest in the 'paranormal' when I was young. Hell, my mum even encouraged it.. Whilst also cautioning "That psychic stuff, like ouija boards and things.. Yeah, that's evil. Don't do that. I saw it on TV once. " Haha, oh TV.. Giver of great knowledge .

So, yeah.. That's me for ya .

Elem

[[Epothes]]

I told my mother and she yelled at me for an hour saying evil spirits will come and corrupt my soul and blacken my heart. She said they would possess me.

So now I act as if I completely stopped studying magick and moved on to other things which, I of course haven't. Parents are just over-protective sometimes and want the best for their children meaning they won't ask questions if they think their child is in danger. Kinda funny that in "saving" your child you "hurt" them.

I advise keeping everything on the computer and locking it up with the best encryption possible. My stuff is so locked down that if you tried to crack it it would take YEARS to open it up.

[Tinu]

One thing that you have to realise is that you're a minor, and living under your parents' roof. Once you're not a minor, and not living under their roof, then you can do and believe whatever the heck you want to. However, while you're still a minor, they do have the right to limit the things you do as long as they believe it is in your best interests. Its not morally right for them to go through your things, since as a person you do have a right to your privacy, however they believe they are doing it in your best interests.

My best advice to you would be to act like you've stopped practicing. If you really feel strongly about it, then keep things out in the open, like a glass of water, etc. Go to church with them, I had to when I was a minor and a practicing Wiccan. I even do it when I visit my parents' house. Whether they call God by God, or I call the Goddess and God, it all goes back to the same Source.

[tallfemal]

WELL, I SUGGEST IS THAT YOU DO YOUR RESERACH, THE HISTORY, THE LORE, EVERYTHING. THAN YOU COULD WRITE A LETTER TO THEM EXPLAINING WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED, WHY IT APPEALS TO YOU AND WHY CHRISTIANITY DOESN'T. AND ANY QUESTIONS THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE.

ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS WITH LOVE IN YOUR VOICE AND COMPASION IN YOUR HEART.

BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS AND I HOPE THAT THIS HAS HELPED YOU.

SARAH WRIGHT

[Addalaide]

Oh i had a wonderfull idea, kinda for myself really, but i will share.

Latly it seams alot of people whant to own stars, my mom has 100 of them she loves them, you get can theprimative wooden ones all over the place, and also just reguler ones my mom has a beautifull candle holder thats in the shape of a star. So why not just start collecting them yourself? There in plain sight, and sence its an "in" thing ( atlest around here ) then no one will think a thing about it. Also alot of beautifull fall decorations are comeing out that could look nice on an alter. I kinda like the country/wornout used looking objects and you can get 100 differt stars and decorat your room or home with them. Just bless them and you can have a protection symbal in plain sight.

I love fall, such pretty colors. Cant wait to decorat my new place it will be so nice!

[Alison]

What I personally would do is try to educate them 'gently', but some adults are really uncomprimising, and don't like to be 'educated' by kids... it ends up offending them, then they get angry, then you get angry, and its a big mess. So if they tell you to drop the subject, I'd drop it.

The thing is, you won't always be living at home. Trust me, its a LOT easier to "come out" to your parents after moving out. I'm a lesbian, and didn't tell them untill after I was living in my own apartment, and it took them almost a whole year to really understand that. It was kind of funny actually, my Mom kept tripping on "I thought you were straight" I kept asking "when did I ever say that?" LOL.. I haven't even started on telling them we're studying wicca.

So I guess my advice is while living under their roof follow their rules, It'll make for an easier time at home, most of the time. There are mini altar supplies I've seen then you can set up even temporarily.. or even just symbols of the elements.. a feather, a rock, a candle, a glass of water...

you'll make it And like I said, you won't always be living there, its a temporary thing

[Addalaide]

I hate telling my mom anything, unless i am just jokeing and doing to to bugg her. I probly wont tell my mom, my fionce wants me to "grow up" ( his words not mine) and tell them i am not christion. And i find that hard because i guess i care about her feelings more than i thought i did, it whould kill my mom if she new i wasnt christion i have issues with her , alot, yeah but i for some reson care about her feelings when i tell her things. I donno really what my dad whould do, me and him have kinda talk about it, he told me wicca is the stupidest and more ignorent religion ( this was befor i new what it was he was complaing about my aunt) there is. He only became a christion about..2 years ago, i belive he dosnt accept the devil as anything but a scare tactic though. he also hates organized religion.....witch i think is strange....but i have told him i agree with him on almost evey thing he has told me about. I think he whould understand why i dont belive anymore, because he was a non christion for so long and new all the resons.

But yeah i whouldnt tell my mom, she whould go into histarics and cry and then beat me with a bible for a year untell she finly got over it about never. ( took her a year to halfway get over me moveing in with my fionce so being a person who is going to "hell" whould make her crazy).

But i think you should tell people you trust wont hate you or treat you differnt, my fionce just calls me a hippy tree lover sence we have talked about it and dosnt really care as long as i dont sacrafise squeekers ( pet rat) i think an animal sacrifise mite scare him a little....( i whould never hert anything that just what he told me i wasnt alowed to do lol)