Spells for reconciling???

[Sunshine07]

Before anyone jumps down my throat, please hear me out, or just give me advice. I am new to spell casting, but very interested and have read books about it. Wondering if there are any spells to reconcile with a loved one or just make peace between the two of us?

[Ethereal Siren]

Personally I don't know any spells to do such a thing, but i would suggest that you study human psychology or use your knowledge if you already have (specifically on conflict resolution) and use it in the mundane and in writing a spell of your own to target the best way to facilitate this reconciliation.

[Colubra]

If I knew the specifics of the situation, I could be of more help. Generally speaking, whatever you do should not inflict upon the other's free will. Yes, mundane efforts in the physical realm are always a good way to start, but I know that sometimes that just isn't possible for one reason or another.

I always find it best to tailor spells to specific situations rather than using a copy/paste method that was written generally, especially when it comes to interpersonal situations. I'd be really glad to help. You can PM me the situation or put it here so others can give their input too if you'd like. It's really up to how comfortable you are with sharing. I know these things can sometimes be rather complex as well....

[Ethereal Siren]

Without knowing anything further on the situation, the best thing I think you can do while you prepare a spell to resolve the situation and take those necessary mundane steps for the spell to work is to take an honest look inward. Conflicts are often due to the actions of both parties. You must thoroughly understand your own feelings and motivations before you can resolve any rift between yourself and someone else. I'm not saying that you don't already know your feelings and motivations, in fact you do, but sometimes we hide these things from ourselves as a defense mechanism (is it obvious that i took that psychology class?) Also you should be able to see the situation for an objective viewpoint as much as possible. Not everyone can do this well, but a little bit of objectivity can go a long way.

[[ForestWitch]]

I think there must be about a gazillion reconciliation spells out there, but many of them are quite manipulative.

I would probably do a healing or forgiveness spell in this situation. There would be a number of ways to craft such a spell but things to keep in mind are color correspondences: pink is good for friendship and emotional healing. For herbal correspondences: vervain would be my first choice, but lavender or rose would be fine, too. If using stones: probably rose quartz or moss agate. Since it involves two people, I would likely use two of something - it could be candles or stones or anything else that you feel could represent the two of you. I would write my incantation carefully so as not to impede free will and also to admit my own contribution to the bad feeling between us. Any spell I would craft would be meant to aid communication between myself and the other person, NOT TO REPLACE IT.

[Sunshine07]

Here is the situation. I am involved with someone for 3+ years now and we have kept our relationship a secret because we come from different races (sort of like a Romeo & Julia situation). Both our families are strict, especially his family. I think my family suspects that we are a couple, but his had no clue until just recently. So, all these years we have been pretending to be just good "friends". Although it's getting a little frustrating to me that for how much longer we have to keep our relationship a secret when we both love each other. So, I always talked to him about this. Now, recently someone in his family found out and a whole lot of mess happened. And I don't know why, but he thinks I had something to do with it and he got mad at me. So mad, that now he won't take my calls, e-mails, etc. I basically just want to make peace with him or ask for him to forgive me (even though I didn't tell about our relationship to anyone). I know the whole thing about can't force something on someone's free will. I am not trying to force anything on him. I am just devastated over the whole situation and I feel like I lost him for good. His family is not gonna let him see me now either. Also, I am VERY new to the whole spell casting thing! I have no clue how to write a spell. I was looking to see if someone has a spell to suggest, either to heal the situation between me and him, or to reconcile and make peace. Thanks in advance!

[Colubra]

This is a terrible situation! The whole thing about the parents makes me rather cranky. I don't understand people sometimes, seriously. When it comes to love, things like race shouldn't matter. You obviously care deeply for each other to have spent such a long time committed to one another despite having to (unfairly) keep your relationship a secret. It must have been difficult to keep it a secret, both for practical reasons and for mental/emotional reasons.

Anyways, did he mention at all WHY he thinks you had something to do with it? Or is it just because you had mentioned to him on how keeping things a secret is undesireable? Either way, that is an unfair assumption on his part, but it seems to me like he's just upset in general and doesn't really know what to do. If heis parents won't even let him see or contact you....maybe part of him feels its "easier" to be angry with you instead of trying to confront his parents.

As far as spells go, I'm going to create one right now for you that uses minimal supplies, just in case it's hard for you to get them. Remember, the key is not the physical items but the focus of your intent and the energy you put into what you are doing.

First what you should do is envision a pure white energy surrounding you and your working space in a glowing sphere. This will help you to relax your mind as well as help to ehance the energies you are working with with positive healing effect. Perhaps also put on some kind of song or music that has a special significance to you two.

Have something that he has touched or come in contact with frequently with you. This will have soem of his residual energy on it, connecting it to him. What you should do is hold this item, close your eyes, and picture a pure white energy moving from your heart and out through your hands, mixing with the energy of that which is on the item. While doing this, state your intention in any way you like and as specific as possible, making sure to note that no manipulation or harm shall come from the magickal working. Keep your thoughts clear and positive and visualie in your mind you and he being seperated by a brick wall and then see the wall crumbling before you. In your mind reach out and take his hand, feeling the same pure energy flowing from you directly to him, knowing that as you are doing this, you are sending him gentle positive energy to help heal his heart and open his mind to the situation. Take your time focussing and truly believe tha twhat you are doing will help him to be more understanding of your situation and will also help his well being.

When you feel that you have done enough, see the sphere around you sink into the ground and take a few moments to feel yourself connected to the earth. This is a form of grounding which will allow stray energies to return to the universe without making you feel too disconnected.

I hope this works. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. In the future, I am sure you will be able to create your own spells and work them, it will just take time for you to learn. I suggest you read some books on the subject. There are reccomendations elsewhere on the board, and you can also feel free to ask at any time. People ehere are very helpful.

Let me know how this goes if you decide to use it. And if you feel intuitively to make a change to it, examine why that is and perhaps you can utilize that change.

[Sunshine07]

I had a few more questions....

As far as spells go, I know it's not an overnight magic and it depends on how much energy was put into it and meditation. However, how long should one wait to see the spell work (days/weeks/months)? Also, if a while has passed, is it ok to repeat the same spell, or it's not good to do it twice?