recurring dreams of the same person

[sagitarianprinces]

hi lately ive been having these weird dreams of my ex boyfriends.about 2 weeks ago i had several dreams of the 1st boyfriend i ever had..i havent seen him in like 6 years and then i saw him at the gym.mind you he lives nowhere near me.i asked him what he was doing here he told me he's been working out in this gym for about 1 year..ive been going there for about 2 years and never seen him..ok but thats not all i have this guy that i am completly in love with but he's not intrested in a serious relationship yet...(so he says) ive been dreaming of him for about 7 months almost everyday..i am begining to belive that maybe im going loco..these dreams are very real and intense..i dont know what to do if to call him or email him or something but i just dont want him to think that im crazy over him...last time i spoke to him was on dec 24 and he was acting kinda like weird like not intrested in what i had to say..so can anyone help me and tell me whats going on with me? is this normal?

[Eos]

That ex that you saw at the gym could've just been going at different times than you were there. Or you just seriously never noticed him, for one reason or another.

Doesn't sound to me like that guy you're into is interested. That or he's trying really hard to look not interested because he's worried you'd think he's desperate. I guess that's up to you to know if he's the sort of guy who'd do that. But you never know what could happen if you don't go for it.

Perhaps he was preoccupied with something that last day you saw him. What's your relationship with crush-boy? Are you two close, or is he someone you know from a class, or through a friend?

I don't think the dreams are anything unusual. The one about your ex could've been a sort of premonition. What was happening in the dream about your ex?

[Moon_Stone]

Eos has some good advice there, I agree with a lot of it as well.

One other thought I had (re. the ex boyfriend), perhaps you have actually been seeing him at the gym on occasion, but it was only a glimpse from the corner of your eye or just in a very quick glance as you scanned the room for an open work-out machine... besides the fact that when one goes to the gym they're not looking for "who do I know" but are there for a specific purpose, in your "room-scanning", it's highly likely that you may have caught a glimpse of this ex but done so so quickly that the person himself wasn't actually "noticed" or recognized. (Especially if he's been attending that gym for a good year or so.) ...Unless, like Eos said, you both have just been there at different times of day. That's quite possible as well.

Overall though, I tend to think your dreams of ex's and your desire for your current boyfriend to become more serious are speaking to you more as a whole rather than about each boyfriend-experience itself. Your dreams may be communicating to you that subconsciously (and probably consciously as well), you are having feelings of loneliness and a strong desire to connect and be connected with a man in a mutually desirous relationship.

No worries, these dreams are totally normal. :28:

Bright Blessings!

[sagitarianprinces]

the problem is that i am in a serious relationship...and i dont feel lonely at all.
and yes me and crush boy are very close...ive known him for 3 years.he use to be totaly in love with me but i have a boyfreind and never really paid attention to him.until last year that i found out that my boyfreind had cheated on me..so i left him a started dating crush boy..but for personal reasons i got back with my ex but i started falling for crush boy hard and when i finally decided to leave my bf for good he didnt want anything serious with me.

and about the ex dream.. in it we were dating again but he was married and didnt want to leave his wife..and the freaky part about it is that when i spoke to him at the gym that day he told me he recently got married...mind you i havent seen this person in 6 years i dont know anything about his life.

[Eos]

Ohhh, well that's different.

Sounds like crush boy is a little wary, a little "once bitten, twice shy." It seems he doesn't want to be with someone who he feels is 'on again, off again'. Have you tried to tell him that you mean it this time, and have you asked him to give you another chance? How long ago was it that you left your other boyfriend for good?