Socially Inept
Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:19 pm
I guess I 'm mostly posting this so that I can get out my feelings, but advice would be good too. Ok, so about a month ago yesterday a guy moved to my school. I was the first person to sit with him and he was assigned to sit next to me in one of my classes. I thought he was cute, but kept my distance because I am a nerd and knew I'd get nowhere fast with him if I tried to date him. That was fine with me, I was used to being a loner of sorts (more nerd traits). Well, it just so happened that I'd recently began to wear a dog's choke chain. One day, soon after he moved here, I was fidgeting with it and he looked at me questioningly. I explained that I wore it in mourning of my dearly departed canine companion. I was sure he'd tease me, but he shocked and awed me by smiling with understanding and pulling a smaller version of the collar around my neck and saying, "I thought I was the only one who did that."
Needless to say, I was practically smitten by this event alone. Over the next several days, I got to know him and I introduced him to a few of my friends that hadn't met him yet. One friend in particular, one far more outgoing and prettier than I took a particular interest in him. Later she confided in me that she liked him. I was in hot water. The next day the guy asked me if i thought he should ask my friend out. I, at the time, thought nothing about it and, being painfully shy about my own feelings toward him, beat around the question, telling him she liked him and that it was his decision to ask her or not. He did. Later, I was told that I should have protested more because what he most likely meant by that dad-blamed question was 'do you like me' which I, of course, didn't know because of my social ineptitude. Now I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I still like him, but he's now dating one of my closest friends. I was too shy to tell my friend I liked him too, and now have no idea how to tell her in the current situation. I see them in the hallways and on the way to my bus. It's almost a physical discomfort. I don't want to hurt my friend, I love her like a sister, but there's this little part of me that wishes that they werent together. It's been even worse this week because we started a new term and the both have a class with me and sit next to me.
Needless to say, I was practically smitten by this event alone. Over the next several days, I got to know him and I introduced him to a few of my friends that hadn't met him yet. One friend in particular, one far more outgoing and prettier than I took a particular interest in him. Later she confided in me that she liked him. I was in hot water. The next day the guy asked me if i thought he should ask my friend out. I, at the time, thought nothing about it and, being painfully shy about my own feelings toward him, beat around the question, telling him she liked him and that it was his decision to ask her or not. He did. Later, I was told that I should have protested more because what he most likely meant by that dad-blamed question was 'do you like me' which I, of course, didn't know because of my social ineptitude. Now I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I still like him, but he's now dating one of my closest friends. I was too shy to tell my friend I liked him too, and now have no idea how to tell her in the current situation. I see them in the hallways and on the way to my bus. It's almost a physical discomfort. I don't want to hurt my friend, I love her like a sister, but there's this little part of me that wishes that they werent together. It's been even worse this week because we started a new term and the both have a class with me and sit next to me.
he must get you. Congratulations 
