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small vent: christian grandmother...

Posted: Sat May 03, 2008 7:42 pm
by stormer89
i just went over to see my mom and as i was getting in the car, my grandma gets out which she usually doesn't, comes right up to me in my personal space and puts my pentacle on the INSIDE OF MY SHIRT. i lightly slapped her hand away from me out of reflex and was like "im 19 years old and this is a country where we have freedom of religion".
its just discoraging cuz she has known of my religion since i've been 14, and yet she still acts all crazy about it. i just wish shes find some room in her heart for acceptance. i mean if she came to my home and was wearing a cross, i wouldnt make or even ask her to tuck it in her shirt. seriously.
oh and on the car ride home my little brother danny was like "hey is that your church?" as we passed one and i was like "uh no" then he asked "are you still catholic?"
it was very hard to not answare that honestly, so i was just like "i pleade the 5th on that one" cuz my grandma was in the car.
sometimes its hard being a different religion from your family, espically when they are really religouse with their own religion. even when your well outta the broom closet, its still not easy all the time.

Posted: Sun May 04, 2008 1:36 am
by oracle's child
have you ever heard the expression "picking your battles"? i think that sometimes there are circumstances where you have to ask yourself, do i want peace or do i want to be right? of course you have every right to worship as you please or to not believe in anything at all. but, and this is where i have to say that only you know what the relationship between you and your grandma is worth, if something is going to provoke maybe less is more. ultimately the choice is yours but i think that sometimes in our effort to assert ourselves we can alienate. i can't help but remember my own grandma. we were very close and i miss her very much. she's been gone for a few years now.

Posted: Sun May 04, 2008 10:06 am
by The Mystic Pilgrim
Sweety, I have the same basic issue with my own grandmother... I've had to make peace with the fact that we will never agree on the issue. I love her just the same, but this is one issue we'll never see eye to eye on. Sad, but it's the reality of it. :(

Posted: Sun May 04, 2008 10:13 am
by stormer89
oh i know. its just the way she acts towards people- but thats a seprate rant. i just needed to vent, that's all.

Posted: Sun May 04, 2008 11:06 am
by mysticfyrefly
comin out is a hard one I agree sometimes you really do gotta pick your battle half my family things i'm nuts I've just come to the conclusion that I don't discuss it with them much because its just not worth the struggle I found a symbol i wear of a bird and allot of people think its the american eagle so i just don't explain what it really is to me that works with nobody really getting in my face about it all. :)

Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 12:40 pm
by The Mystic Pilgrim
Try coming out of the Broom Closet and the Gay closet to your grandmother at the same time... now THAT's fun lol

Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 2:32 pm
by stormer89
yeah that'd be a hard one to do.
i think i'd be banned from the family...

Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 9:17 pm
by SeekerGray
yeah that'd be a hard one to do.
i think i'd be banned from the family...
I'd be killed by my family. :o

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 6:09 am
by Heka
I'm reasonably lucky, my family is religiou-less and it doesn't really matter if I have one or not. And my families very accepting, and, i dunno, modern? in that they don't think being gay is a bad thing, but then I'm not gay so it doesn't matter.