Love Spells Don't Work?

[lovespellsdontwork]

Hey. So after reading a book about how love spells are tricky and generally don't work all that well, and end up screwing things up for you...I decided to do a love spell on this guy I liked. haha

We both really liked each other, but I wanted to seal the deal with a love spell. He became my boyfriend, we were both in love. About a week into the relationship, he was playing some racing game on his PS2 and I asked if I could play. We only had one controller, so he passed it to me and I was losing horribly in the race. He started making fun of me....and then things got really weird. For the following week he started telling me how worthless and stupid I was, and didnt hug me or kiss me or seem to care about me in any way....It was like he completely changed. I started thinking maybe it was the love spell reversing itself. So I dumped him.

But get this...

I met this other guy, and we liked each other and we started going out.
And I cast this spell, and I specifically asked for it not to be a love spell, but that I wanted my boyfriend to think of me when I wasnt with him.....about 3 days ago we were playing this racing game......on his PS2 and the same thing happened like my ex boyfriend. We passed the controller back and forth and I kept losing and he kept making fun of me. The next 3 days he didnt show any affection towards me at all. It was like I didnt even know who he was. He was some stranger.

I guess the lesson that can be learned from all this is......don't mess with free will and relationships. Let relationships happen naturally.

What should I do? Should I dump him? Someone recommended doing a reverse spell and see if that puts him back to "normal."

What is up with the racing game? Why did that change the way both of my boyfriends have acted? What does that mean?

~WaterEcho~

[Awakened1]

use your intuition and flow with it

no coincidences, you know that

peace

[[GeekyPagan]]

oh dear.

Firstly, you're right, don't mess with free will. It's bad Mojo.


Instead of casting love spells, why not actually talk to your boyfriend? I see love spells as a last resort. Talking can do some wonders for a relationship.


and the video game? I could be wrong, but the intuition fairy tells me you're young and in school. Boys at that age are immature. Of course they are going to tease. I think the distancing has nothing to do with video games, however. Might be something else. Reflect on yourself and him, and find out. But, above all...talk to him.

[Awakened1]

yep... free will is something you can not interfere with.. bad things happen

[Tinu]

Why do a love spell for a specific person? Why not do a spell for the qualities you want in a boyfriend?

[E Bukura e Dheut]

i dont think love spells are such a good idea. the person whos attention you want to catch in a romantic way should have freewill
if anyone gets what im trying to say

[lovespellsdontwork]

Yeah I think you're all right....I mean I definately won't be doing love spells again......very bad....

~WaterEcho~

[Elem]

yep... free will is something you can not interfere with.. bad things happen

Or, rather.. Bad things may happen. Interfering with a person's free will won't directly / instantly bring 'bad things' upon you.. It just changes things around, alters the path they're walking along.. Which may, or may not, bring them out at something 'bad'.

It's worth bearing in mind, too, that many of us alter other peoples' free will every day. When you try to persuade your friend to come out to the cinema (poor example, probably, but ah well!) rather than stay in and work.. You're altering their free will. Note the wording - altering their free will. You aren't giving them no choice at all, simply giving them other options to consider (and persuading them to take the option you want).

Even when casting a love spell, the person has other options. It just depends how persuasive you are and how easily persuaded their mind is. Unfortunately, the human mind is, more often than not, very easily persauded into doing things. Consider advertisements, for example.. They 'alter' our free will, by trying to persuade us into buying the 'latest' product. Often we're given the illusion of choice (i.e. Buy a DVD player, or stay with your VHS player).. When, really, there's no choice at all (i.e. Buy a DVD player, because we're gonna stop making VHS players in a week). The more persuasive you are, the less likely it is the person will consider (or even realise!) their other options.

Anyway, I'm getting side-tracked and rambling now.. As per usual haha. Either way, just be aware that whilst everyone runs around saying "don't alter free will - bad stuff'll happen to you!", this isn't always the case.. I'm not gonna get into how ethically 'right' it is to try and persuade somebody to do something, since that's entirely down to your personal views on the matter.. But it's worth bearing in mind that some see it as less ethical than others . Just use your own judgement and analyse each thing you want to 'alter' before you go ahead and do it. It never hurts to consider the potential outcomes of your actions .

As for the video game / boyfriend dilemma.. Don't let it bother you if he's teasing you about the game. I tease my girlfriend when she plays games with me on my consoles, but she knows that I'm just playing. It could be that you took his joke a little too seriously.. Either way, try talking to him and asking him why he's acting like he is. There could be a reason, or he could just be being male haha .

See you later, and good luck!

Elem

[Sobek]

love is fragile enough without magical aid.
the reason i feel love spells dont work is because love is a magic all its own.
and too mess with it breaks its natural rhytms. thats kinda where the term soul mate comes from. the natural magic that surrounds love govern that these souls were meant to be together and work to bring themselves closer.

but if you must do anything even close to a love spell i would say you call for potential.

never go into these practices having set personality traits you want because odds are when you get them you wont want them so much. cast a spell to call for someone with the "potential" to be a life partner. have the powers assist you in meeting and go from there.

-Sobek

[emmafrost]

Why do a love spell for a specific person? Why not do a spell for the qualities you want in a boyfriend?

I was actually going to suggest that. What you can do is write out everything you want in a person, general physical attributes, personality, intelligence, etc. Be very detailed. Then you can mail the letter if you want to a friend and ask them to keep it for you, or if you dont' have anyone you trust to do that, burn the paper you wrote it out on and scatter the ashes on the wind. That'll do it.

[Enki]

There really aren't any real love spells. What people call love spells should really be called either lust spells, or soul enslavement spells. I was the victim of a so called "love spell". The result was that I was like a walking zombie for this woman. I would do anything for her. It took a year for that to wear off enough that I could finally break free of it and find out what had actually been done to me. The act of casting a love spell is an act of Will seeking to dominate the mind of another. Calling it something benign like "love spell" does not make it better. So I say, do what ye will, but do it with eyes open and be aware of the consequences.