Love is confusing

[Butterfly1984]

Hi, I just need to rant about the last 2 months and the discisions i have made.
I came on holiday to spain 2 months a go and stayed here and got back with my x aaron. i am really happy with him and we get on really well, all is great. But i also left behind my x marc and, as much as he is a lazy sod whio never got a job in the year we were tgether and made no efforts to make a life together work i sopketo him the other day and i miss him. I dont want to go home and i dont want to leave aaron cos he´s so amazing and encourages me to do well. we have a lovely flat that over looks the mediteranean. i think im just confused. Marc and i were very good friends as well and i think thats what i am missing. Any thought welcome. This isnt really a question just a discussion. Thank guys

Blessed be

[Pav]

Sounds like you should stay with aaron and just stay good friends with marc

[Sobek]

when love is involved you'll always have something for the other party whether it be lingering feeling which can generate such confusion orblind hatred. its not really about forcing the feelings for past love away but acknowledeging them and not letting them interfere with present love, they both deserve a chance and past is past. in time you'll know where your supposed to be.

[Grim Wraith]

Nothing is more confusing, or more complicated than love. Stay with Aaron, and goodfriends with marc... maybe he'll get a job.

[Sobek]

i think there are more confusing things, these things most people tend not to bother with.

[Vicki*]

Very rarely do people change love, not unless they want to! Marc is your ex for a reason, remember that!

[Butterfly1984]

Thanks guys im feeling better now, im still in spain with aaron doing the right thing. marc´s still my friend though but i have a habit of keeping lovers for friends after we finish, a bad habit mayb.

Blessed Be

[Sercee]

It's a good habit as long you're able to keep it as a friendship and not slip back into the intimate zone. Most people hate their ex-es.

I used to be really bad for staying close to people, getting into a weird mood, then mistaking my happy feelings for 'I love you' feelings.

My emotions in general were pretty screwed up for a long time.

[Butterfly1984]

I think i can relate to that. It hasnt always stayed legal with all of them and it does put ur head in a spin. i think thats y im with aaron i no what my emotions r saying and he doesnt hold back showing me his which helps. i sometimes feel a bit over the top cos im really emotional about everything.

Light and Love xxxx

[Butterfly1984]

Hi, just thought id up`date this topic. I am still in spain but this feeling of loss hasnt gone away. I think i am very lonely as i havent made loads of friends of my own and i cant find another job cos the season has ended. What a poxy country that has seasons for life. My mum and dad r helping out with rent but we still dont have enought to go out and do anything. Aaron seems ok though. i spoke to Marc the other day and he still wants me to go home. Says everything will b ok if i just go back to him. I think thats wiahful thinking on his part. i no him and he wont get over this and it will drive a wedge in between us again. I have left him before u see and he never got over that. I dont think he has changed that much in 3 months.
Light and Love

[Sercee]

I would have to agree with you. People can make a lot of realizations and 'know better' after three months, but they don't cope differently. That takes a lot of practice and mindfulness.

I'm glad you're sticking with your decision, though. Decisions are no good if there isn't any follow through.

[Butterfly1984]

Thank u sercee, its nice to no someone out there knows wot i mean.

Light and Love to you

[[Epothes]]

Remember that without confusing and stressful emotions life is boring. Trust me, it's the truth and I say this from current experiences. Love is something that never ceases to amaze me at how strange things can get. The moment you think you understand its mechanics and how it works you turn around and discover something you never knew. The same goes for the complete opposite.

[Butterfly1984]

Thanks, i think thats what i like about it though. The unknowing. I moan that its a bit confusing but i couldnt live without it.
Az and i doing really great at the moment. We have known each other for 5 years but we have really fallen for each other these last 4 months and we´re so loved up. I dont have to make myself love him i just do and i couldnt do anything about it i tried. He has such a beautiful soul which really (this is gonna sound insane but its true) calls to myown soul, they totally compliment each other and theres a real connection that we cant break. Im so blindly happy when im with him. There is knowone else in the room when he´s there and im so proud to be with him when we´re out. He´s so bloody gorgeous as well but its his ways that make me proud. Sorry to go on but our relationship has really kicked up a beat this last week or two and i feel like im floating on air.

Light and love

[corrupted_beauty]

In my opinion, you should stay with Arron. You seem to be happier with him. (You said nothing bad of him but only bad of Marc) Not only do you seem happier, but it seems you would have a better life with him. No one can tell you what to do about this. You have to listen to what YOU want to do. Don't base your opinion solely on others.