a spell to heal a broken hart

[satine]

pleas can enybody help me i need a spell that can help me get over a person that i love becose i dount want to love him eny more he has hurt me so bad but i still love him pleas help me enybody who has a working spell for this kine of stuff post it hear.

thank you

[Vigdisdotter]

I fear that you probably won't like my answer.....but times DOES heal broken hearts.

It took me a year to get over mine, but when I saw him again 5 years later, he was just another guy on the street.

You really can't dot a lot about your feelings, other then giving it time, since the blasted things don't exactly listen to logic. However, if you want to do a spell of intent, that's not a bad idea.

You could gather things the represent you love for and life with the person who broke your heart. Say something about how they represent a time that is now past and a relationship that is now gone. Then destroy the items (burning or burying them in the ground works well). then clean up and go about your day. Don't look back. The tie is now severed.

You'll still have your feelings, but you're now in a head space to move on.

[IceDragonX]

I know how you feel, Im going through that now. I like to wait it out, I know that is just plain torturing myself. But hopefully the feelings will finally disappear and I no longer have to feel anymore of the pain. Everyday it hurts a little less, but I know that this will take longer than I want it too. I am not ashamed of my feelings, but I know that they have to leave me, because he no longer deserves my tears.

[satine]

it was 4 monts ago when whe broke up he has moved on and hes looking for a new one allredy.it hurts so bad every time i see him i want to cry it is so hard for me to get over him becose he lives next door .i realy love him but he has hurt me so bad that i dount want to love him eny more.we dated for a year.
its so hard maybe if i tell my whole story hear i would feel a little petter.
every body ses its better to talk to some one about it and after you would feel petter.if you would like to read it i will write it.

then you can give me advice.

[Sercee]

Put it up in the 'Love' section, and go nuts. Sometimes I find just getting it out is the important part, the advice is secondary.

[thatguy]

Long ago, on another thread, someone made the comment that when people come asking for spells or rituals, most of the board usually offers some sort of council, sometimes dissuading the individual from using a spell to solve their problem (and no spell). Whoever posted this pointed out that this really isn't what was being asked for. Since I was one of those people who usually offered council of the aforementioned type, I have considered this comment often.

Although I believe that it's definitely appropriate and kind-hearted to offer this kind of advice, I realized that we're all adults here. If someone wants a spell, they're capable of evaluating consequences and making their own decision.

Anyways, Satine, here is something that will help you to stop loving this person.

I don't have a spell for you, but I do have a ritual (some may even consider this a spell).

In the following ritual, I refer to this person as your 'boyfriend'. The ritual is identical even of this person is not technically your boyfriend.

Step 1:

Decide on a time (a specific time of a specific day) which will be best for you to give up your love for this person. Just mull it over in your head until something appropriate clicks. It should be a time where you are guaranteed to be undisturbed (and ideally, completely alone).

Step 2:

Pick a place where you will perform the ritual. Choose this place in the same way as you chose your time.

Step 3:

Gather the following things:

- 2 long pieces of string (about a yard/meter long).
- a blank piece of paper (it's okay if it's white, lined or graph, doesn't matter)
- A black writing instrument, ideally a felt-tipped marker but could also be a black pen.
- A pair of sharp scissors
- A roll of tape (scotch or masking is fine).

Step 4:

Place the things you have gathered (out of sight) near the place where you will perform your ritual and leave them there.

Step 5:

At the time you chose, go to the place you chose as do the following:

- using the black marker, on the piece of paper, near the top, draw the face of your boyfriend as best you can. The face should be about one third to one half the size of the paper.
- draw a body under the face, make sure that the arms and legs stick clearly outwards from the body and that there are hands and feet. Again, just draw the best you can.
- using the scissors, cut around your drawing as best you can so that you have a paper-doll-like cut-out of the figure of your boyfriend.
- again, using the scissors, poke a hole in the right wrist of the paper-doll.
- take one of the pieces of string, put it through the hole and tie it to itself (so that you have one end of the string tied to the right wrist of the doll by a loop)
- using the scissors, poke a hole in the left wrist of the paper-doll.
- tie the other piece of string to the doll's left wrist in the same manner
- using the tape, fasten the doll to some location where it would be slightly above your head if you were to sit on the ground/floor in front of it (make sure the doll faces outwards and is upright). Fastening it to a wall, or the back of a chair, or to a tree or fence (if you're outside) are all fine.
- taking the scissors with you, sit in front of the paper doll (on the floor or the ground) 'indian style' (with legs cross)
- place the scissors by your right thigh.
- take the string attached to doll's right wrist and tie the free end around your left wrist
- take the string attached to doll's left wrist and tie the free end around your right wrist

You should now be sitting on the ground looking slightly upwards at a paper-doll of your boyfriend. On your left there is a string attaching you to it, wrist to wrist, and on the your right, the same thing.

Stare up at the doll and let it become (represent in every important way) your boyfriend. Spend some time just looking at his face. Next, casually observe the strings tied between you and him.

Next, know that you are about to say good-bye forever. Allow yourself to experience any image, memory or emotion that comes to mind. During this time try to gaze mainly at his (the doll's) face. Stay perfectly still, do not move from your sitting position! Spend as much time reminiscing as you need.

When you feel the time is right, pick up the scissors. Holding them in you right hand, to your boyfriend (the doll which is him) say aloud (and firmly) "I will no longer acknowledge the feelings you have for me". Now cut the string around your left wrist. Take the scissors in your left hand. To your boyfriend say aloud (and firmly) "I will no longer extend my feelings towards you". Now cut the string around your right wrist.

Immediately stand up. Say to the doll "we no longer have any connection". Tear the paper doll off its fixture and crumple it into a ball, string and all. Holding the ball in your right hand, walk immediately to the nearest public trash-bin, even if you have to walk right out your front door (if you need to do this and feel you must lock up, have you keys ready in your pocket). When you reach the trash-bin just non-chalantly toss the ball in and forget about it.

Return to the place where you performed your ritual. Perform any grounding/balancing/centring ritual that you normally perform after doing any kind of energy/magical work. Take your left-over equipment and put it away. Immediately eat something. You're done.

I hope this is effective for you,

cheers,

T. Guy.

[Sercee]

Wow, thatguy. That's a really good one.

[satine]

thank you thatguy i am very thankfull for the ritual.i will trie it and tell you how it went thank you again

[Storm]

Although I believe that it's definitely appropriate and kind-hearted to offer this kind of advice, I realized that we're all adults here. If someone wants a spell, they're capable of evaluating consequences and making their own decision.

.

That would be a very sound comment - if we were all adults here. But we're not. Some members are as young as 14.

Just thought I'd throw that in...