spirit question

[shadow_walker143]

hi. well first off, let me give a little background, than to my question. ok my boyfriend and i moved in to an apartment that is located right across the street from a hospital, so the spiritual activity is quite high. i think that one of these has attached themselves to my boyfriend. right after we moved in, he did a abrupt 180 in terms of his thinking, behaivior, and attitude. my question is how do i get rid of a spirit that has attached itself to him, without hurting anyone or anything in the process? thanks for any info you all may have

[Rein]

Well, that is a tough one....Might I suggest first getting into contact with this spirit and asking it to leave? If that doesn't work, then you may have no choice but to preform a banishing spell, because letting it remain there would just do more harm than good. If it's a human spirit, there's a good chance you can persuade it to be on it's way. If not, things may be more difficult for you.

[shadow_walker143]

how would i go about asking it to leave? do i need any special tools? im not familiar with the spirit world as much as i am with the physical. any advice would be great

[moonlit]

Just address it by saying: "I know you are here and that you are attached to my boyfriend, I ask that you leave here and never return." It can be as simple as that. You can say anything to get your point accross. If that doesn't work you can always try smudging or cleansing.

moonlit

[shadow_walker143]

great! thanks. now i have to wait until he gets out of jail, another consiquence of this spirits influence, his judgement was VERY clouded. thanks for your advice, i can do smudging, and it works very well for me, as i am native american. i dont know why i didnt think of that first.

[[GeekyPagan]]

You can also have him take a bath in salt water, as it has some purification qualities. Also you can try anointing him with an oil made from sage.

[shadow_walker143]

thank you again for your advice, it is going to come in handy when he gets out. thanks so much

[Elem]

I've tried to resist posting on this thread, really I have.. But my hands have got the better of me and decided to start typing anyway .

I know you're probably sick of me, after my long post to you last time, but I just wanted to offer my advice.. Take it as you will, and I hope I don't offend in any way .

It seems that, even now, you're still looking for another reason.. Another excuse.. For your boyfriend's behaviour. Why can't it just be that he really has done a 180? For no true reason, just.. 'Because'?. Some people work like that.. It has nothing to do with spirits, or negative energy, or other-worldly 'things'.. It's just human nature.

Perhaps he's scared of commitment? No offense intended, but you seem very 'full on' with your love for him.. Whilst that's not a bad thing, perhaps he's just not cut out for that level of intimacy yet? Or perhaps he's just changed his idea of how he'd like his future to play out.. Or is simply confused about what he wants? It could be any number of things..

There's nothing wrong with looking for a reason why he's changed.. It's just, sometimes, you've gotta give up and accept it as it is. It's not nice, and it doesn't rest well on the minds of most people, but it's life. As I say, sometimes things happen for no reason whatsoever. You might be the nicest, most caring person in the world.. Cruel to nothing and nobody.. Yet you're still 'punished' with a fall down the stairs that leaves you without the use of your legs. The world works in mysterious, and often cruel, ways..

As I've already said, there's nothing wrong with questioning. It's just keeping that questioning to a 'healthy' level.. As opposed to bordering on obsessive. I feel like I've said it too many times already but.. No offense intended . Your obsession with finding a reason 'why' he might have changed.. 'Why' things aren't how they used to be.. Is clearly shown throughout the entire board, especially with readings from TLily.

These are not the acts of somebody who seems happy to just 'leave things be' and 'see what happens'.. But, rather, somebody who is desperately seeking an answer to a question that nobody but yourself (and Time..) can answer. There's no harm it trying to see what the future might hold.. But be aware that no matter how many times you ask, you'll likely never get the answer you 'want'.

Things will never go back to normal. They'll never magically change overnight, no matter how much of the 'why' you know about his behaviour. Silly analogy but.. You can't bake a chocolate cake, then decide you don't like it, 'unbake' it and make a vanilla one instead. You've just gotta accept the chocolate cake as it is, and find a way of coping with it.

The wonderful thing about Time is that it tends to heal all things. Perhaps if you gave the chocolate cake away to someone, they'd give you a vanilla in return at some point in the future.. Who knows . But, silly analogies aside, you've just gotta stop questioning things in the past, and get on with living in the present. Like I say - nothing wrong with trying to understand it.. But you gotta learn when to just stop and accept life as it is.

Good luck to you.. I hope you've managed to read through all of this - silly analogies and all - and that it hasn't offended you.. I only wish to give you my honest opinion / advice and try to help you move your life forward towards the bright future ahead of you.. Rather than letting you dwell on something that's happened and (unfortunate as it may be) cannot be 'fixed'.

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

Elem

[shadow_walker143]

thanks elem, i needed that. i have been looking for excucses, and reasons for his behaivor.

but anyway, it is all a moot point anyway. as we are back to the way things used to be. he just had to fight through some personal battles that i couldnt help him with.

in short, he had to look within himself to see if his feelings for me were true, and wasnt just lust. he finally found the answers he was seeking and now things are much better.

[Elem]

I'm very glad to hear that, shadow . Good luck for the future!

Elem

[Addalaide]

I understand what you are going threw with the commitment trubals. My fionce and i had a huge problume a fue mounths ago The thing that completly resoved it was a fight we had where i left and took evey thing of mine with me, and it clicked to him that i was there for him and that i could leave any time i wanted to, and it scared him to be without me. It ended up being a harsh reality cheek for us bouth really. I'm glade it has worked out for you 2 though. If you ever need to talk i am here though ok?

[shadow_walker143]

thank you both. its been a roller coaster ride thats for sure. and i will most likely end up taking you all up on your offer to talk. im on yahoo all the time, feel free to im me.

[Saria]

Have you tried a banishing spell, or looked into excercisms? It also depends on the type of spirit, human? non human? friendly? threatning? young? old? All these depend on different ways to excercise the spirit, unless the spirit attatched is a familiar he just found. If that's the case, they're probably not gonna leave. If you have more questions though or your problem isn't resolved, feel free to PM me.

[[Enlightenment]]

Tell him to vision himself surrounded in a bright white light that nothing can come close to or near. If that fails and his will is not strong enough to keep this Spirit away then you should try a banishing spell or the like.

Does he feel bad vibes from this Spirit or none threatning ones?

Blessings!

[MorningFate]

I'm glad to hear that everything has worked out for you...even though I haven't posted on the thread yet. Luck to you and your boyfriend. MP