Curse? Hex? Advise Please!

[Forlorn]

Hi all, please give me advise on my situation. I was in a lesbian relationship that ended a while ago. She was practically homeless,jobless and broke. My family let her stay with us free for nearly a year-we did everything for her. We got her on her feet, got her a job,gave her money, bought her stuff etc. We turned her life around basically. Long story short she wasn't a very nice person, she was doing alot of bad stuff behind my back. Things ended.

Since then she has done nothing but tell cruel lies about how bad we were to her, how much she hated me and my family,how we mistreated her etc. We live in a small community with small mindedness. My uncle walked from place to place begging someone to give her a job-she did little in turning her life around-it was all us yet she seems to not realise that all this great job, lots of money, clothes, etc that she has was because all our doing. Even her own family turn their back on her. How can anyone be so cruel and ungrateful? I am so hurt by all the lies she is saying and all the bad thnigs she says of me. But what hurts more is what this is doing to my family. My poor old nan used to wash,iron all her clothes and make her favourite cookies every thursday-we werent rich but we did everything to make her feel happy and part of the family. Now my nan feels is too ashamed to even leave the house because of all these bad things people are saying about us.

I know I should ignore her and move on. But how can I move on when it is affecting those I care about so much? I don't want to curse her or wish any bad on her-I do not want any negative backlash to me.

I wish perhaps just for her to realise what she has done and all the good we have done for her-then for her to have some remorse or guilt to stop these lies etc. Is this possible to do a spell for this? I do not think that is a curse or negative spell that will bring her harm or affect her free will.

Or is there a spell I could do that would take back all we gave and did for her? Like revoke everything we did or gave her? That way she would be where I first met her.....is that possible? I am a believer of positive etc but when i see my family esp my nan so down I wish I never let her in our lives or did any good for her.

Can anyone help? I dont want anything that will bring me or my family negativity.

thanks

[Eretik]

First up, you can take a photo of the person and stick coloured tape[black or purple best] in a cross shape over the mouth. Put the photo up somewhere you can see it. Every so often look at it [ say 3 tmes a day] and put your finger against your lips and hiss ...shhhhhhh.Any one affected can join in if they want, it's not 'bad' it's a simple sympathetic 'shut up/end gossip' spell. Visualise her talking to someone [people you know...vary them each time]but unable to speak unless it 's good things. Reinforce the visualisation every time you look at the photo. Keep it up nine days. This can be repeated again if you need to. Also on the practical front.....those who know you will not believe such, if you are the decent people you seem then her words will only affect the folk who don't know you...but don't take it lying down...be reasonable and take the lead...start telling people you heard some gossip[don't state the source...this is important!] and your sure that............insert the name of git there would be annoyed to know someone is dissing her good friends who helped her out in a tough time this way[tell a gossip...that way it gets back quickly] "you are so hurt, as she is a good friend."Tactical but seemly. Rise above it all. Don't play back publically....your exemplary conduct will help prove her lie.

[saianalyd]

well I've seen a spell on this site to silence rumors- haven't tried it but it's probably worth a shot
a forgiveness spell or an understanding spell might also work
try something to make her see how much pain she's causing, that she's interfering with your happiness.

it sucks that she's being such a scumbag to you and your family-
you guys did a lot to help her

I wouldn't recommend cursing though-things like that come back to you
just remember that her doings will also come back to her

[Sercee]

I've been thinking about cursing a lot lately and you know what? I'm just not against it anymore. People say that "You shouldn't curse someone because karma is going to come back to get you" but what if your curse IS karma acting through YOU to get back to the scum who hurt you in the first place?

If it was just affecting you and not your family then yeah, turn your back and walk away. But it is hurting people you love. By casting Eretik's spell, or cursing her then you're not necessarily doing anything but protect your family and helping the universe get back at her.

I say, do whatever you feel is necessary. She obviously needs it.

[Forlorn]

hi everyone-thanks for all your help and support! it really mean alot. i dont actually wish her any bad or harm or any negatives.

eretick thanks for your wonderful kindness.this spell is good- i can do this spell and stop her from spreading more lies but the trouble is the damage she has already caused. even if she stopped the lies our reputation has still been ruined, my nan is still to ashamed to hold her head in public-i dont want to repeat the things she said but its shameful and of course all madeup lies. maybe she is angry because of the split or how things happen or her way of maybe convincing herself she was the victim or getting revenge or somethng.i dont know.

but is there a spell to maybe make her see the wrong of her actions also?like open her eyes to what she has done and the lies etc.of course i want the gossip to stop but i also want for her to realise all she did or the error in her ways and maybe will give her remorse to make amends to what she has done or put things right. but i dont wnat to do anything that can possible cause backlash to me or my family. i want my nan to not feel too ashamed to leave the house. you know how older people are with these sorts of thing, how they are seen etc-so she wont even go to the shops anymore!

thanks all

[Eretik]

I may have more somewhere, I remember I had a good one a while back, 'walk a mile in my shoes' but I 'll need to check.I tend to work in stages, beginning with what I said above is good, but the fact your nan is so hurt bothers me. I'm pretty old fashioned, I don't mind so much if someone gets me back, or hurts me as I 'm big enough to handle it - I tend to get extreme when it's family members. I was taught to respect elders, so I understand your concern. I'll see what I can find/dig up, that may be helpful.

[Forlorn]

I may have more somewhere, I remember I had a good one a while back, 'walk a mile in my shoes' but I 'll need to check.I tend to work in stages, beginning with what I said above is good, but the fact your nan is so hurt bothers me. I'm pretty old fashioned, I don't mind so much if someone gets me back, or hurts me as I 'm big enough to handle it - I tend to get extreme when it's family members. I was taught to respect elders, so I understand your concern. I'll see what I can find/dig up, that may be helpful.

Thanks so much for all the help. I don't know if it makes a difference or not but she is so stubborn - perhaps the most pig headed person I have ever met and hard to get her to change her mind in normal life so not sure if that may have any bearing on a spell? I do appreciate everything - this is really taking its toll on me, I can't sleep or eat and can not even function so I am trying my best to stay strong and hope to resolve things. So thanks all please keep the tips coming - very useful xx[/b]

[LaFiamma]

I've been thinking about cursing a lot lately and you know what? I'm just not against it anymore. People say that "You shouldn't curse someone because karma is going to come back to get you" but what if your curse IS karma acting through YOU to get back to the scum who hurt you in the first place?

If it was just affecting you and not your family then yeah, turn your back and walk away. But it is hurting people you love. By casting Eretik's spell, or cursing her then you're not necessarily doing anything but protect your family and helping the universe get back at her.

I say, do whatever you feel is necessary. She obviously needs it.

I definitely think that if you;re willing to do somethign by non-magical means, you should be willing to do it through magical means also. Would you be willing to ask her to stop spreading lies about your family in a verbal confrontation? Sure. So why not try to stop it through magical means also?

My two cents...

[Eretik]

Yes.Lets consider this properly. Think on what Fiamma said.You have been hurt, fair enough, I say. The fact that your family is hurt too- enough.Your grandmother is hurt....More than enough....As I said earlier I was taught to respect elders......time for action.Do as I said , if it proves ineffective then we go to the next level. More later.sincerly Geri.

[Forlorn]

LaFiamma-I did try speaking to her several times but never seem to work. She seems determined,convinced and tried to justify her lies. One of her favourite responses was "Ya so what if you did something for me? You expect me to be grateful for the rest of my life?"....erm so ya I have tried other resorts before magic.

eretik thanks - please let me know if you do manage to track down that spell ... also anyone else have any spell ideas for this please let me know

thanks all xxx

[Sercee]

"Ya so what if you did something for me? You expect me to be grateful for the rest of my life?"....

*looks for a baseball bat...*
Sigh.
*puts down baseball bat and hug Forlorn.*

[Forlorn]

Awhh thanks Sercee.....yeeeshh and I always thought women were less complicated than men! lol

But she is very very stubborn! It is hard to change her mind or opinion on anything! I don't know if spells may be able to penetrate her?!!

Also is there someting I can use that will give a long term or lasting effect on her...see she changes her mind quickly-like the times I have spoken to her she changes for about 2dys then she just goes back to doing the same thing again! GRRRRRR

[juliaki]

It sounds like she was this kind of person before she met you...

...during all the time you knew her....

...and she'll be that way once she's long gone out of your life.

Don't waste the energy, just release her from your life.

[kai]

Hey Forlorn, First of all loads of hugsss . Smile is a way to calm yourself, i use it everytime, and it works so just smile and just pray that everything in the future will be good. Well about curses, i dont think thats a good idea, coz that involves a lot of negetive energy. Now i am a newb, but i saw some spell on some site, dunno, it might hav been everythingunderthemoon, i dunno, i just copied and pasted. Its for making people realize their errors, i hope it might help, I havent tried it, but i hope it works for you .

I am just copying and pasting, i have never tried this...


Spell to make/help someone see his errors

This is a three times three spell to use on people who were corrupt in their ways. It has no negative consequence unless you think ill of the person while casting the spell.

"Wind in the north, run through the trees Three times three, let them see, let them see.
Sands of the east, rich soils beneath Three times three, set them free, set them free.
Fires in the south, awaken from sleep Three times three, let them see, let them see.
Water of the west, flow to the seas Three times three, set them free, set them free."

It works best if you have something representing that person, like a strand of their hair or a fingernail. The spell may not work instantaneously, you may have to repeat it for the person to see error in their ways. Please be sure you're not being hypocritical, because that may cause negative feedback... So, all warnings given, blessed be!


Wishing you good luck in future .

[Forlorn]

Julia thanks for your words - I would let it go if it was just myself but how can I when it has affected my family so badly? My nan won't even leave the house now...hence why I really need to try to put things right for my family...

Kai thanks - I didn't want to curse her, I wanted her to realise what she did and feel some sort of remorse or somehting to put things right....I did try that spell you recommended but unfortunately it didn't work.

thanks all - keep the advise coming [/b]