Hex please

[Sastual Auxels]

Hi I am a caring and easy going person, not bad at all and never thought of trying hexes or going passed the "an ye harm none..."
But I am now considering it and I not only want to try but a very powerful hex aswell, the reason?
Because my gf was forced onto by her ex and he used to abuse her and has made her life a nightmare and now a guy who is an assassin and escaped the police a thousand times has done it too and there seems to be nothing happening to them and no retribution for destroying her happiness and hurting her like that so I need a powerful hex, one that YOU seems resonable considering the thing they have done (I DON'T CARE ABOUT 3FOLD! This is a serious thing and hs caused soo much harm toward my gf) Don't you think that even though we are not meant to harm and we are meant to respect women that possibly this could be an exception?
Anyone powerful with the craft or know anything about hexes please help! Or just share your thoughts, thank you

[Alchemist of Blue Roses]

in the end everything shall be justified. Would you like this person to die or suffer a life worse than any they shall experience and make them wish they were dead?

[[new_witch]]

why don't u try banishing spell

remember although u r witch you have powers to do anything u want but u r not god and u have no right to kill or harm anyone

[sheelanagig]

A protection spell for your GF would be more a appropriate request.

Sending Prayers of healing and peace her way.

[MotherSuperior]

I would suggest not looking to a hex as an answer to your problem.

Your girlfriend was forced into what exactly? What kind of abuse is this ex-boyfriend putting her through? If you have evidence that she is being abused in any way you should seek help from the law.

Also, if someone tells you that they are being forced to do something by an "assassin" that has "escaped the police a thousand times" I would take a hard look at that person and figure out why they are making up stories. An assassin that has escaped the police a thousand times? Come on. It sounds like someone is playing games with your emotions and I suggest to stay away from them, even the girlfriend, because that is a form of emotional abuse.

As far as not caring about the rule of three, I find it fairly disrespectful to the various traditions of Witchcraft to disregard a major element. The religion is all about checks and balances, and it's important to keep that in mind if you intend to be a serious practitioner.

[Sastual Auxels]

Look I didn't say I didn't care about threefold ok I meant I don't care what happens to me as a result ok!
And she was RAPED! got it RAPED ok! Where do you come off calling my gf a lier?!
And thank you to everyone else I do thank you for your suggestions but to the person who suggested the law... as if! I have been through 2yrs of severe depression and attempted suicide because I wasn't there to help my friend when she was raped ok and she DID go to court and guess what... HE WAS SET FREE! Got it, the law doesn't work ok! Open your eyes everyone, this is the harshest thing that could happen to a woman and your saying that I should accept it, I like salomon exume' who posted, thank you dearly with many blessings and love, I have the feeling you understand where I am coming from and the severity of such acts.

I want him to suffer a horrible life and not die but wish he was dead.
By the way, he would force my gf into the shower with him, force her to do horrible things and beat her up and still nothing has happened to him so I think it is right for me to just ask that he receives the same if not his threefold which he has not received! Thanks to that mole my gf has been so traumatised and I feel useless, I have to take 2 anti-depressants a night instead of 1 just to remain calm and not try and kill myself!

I am truely sorry for my harshness and anger but I have been through alot and so has she, I am a good guy and I care alot about alot of people and wouldn't wish harm on anyone but you don't get it, noone does cus they are in the dark and refuse to accept the pain that rape causes and how horrible it really is, just because it happens to every 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men doesn't mean we should desencitise ourselves to it!

Again... I am sorry for my anger and agression, I'm seeing a side to myself I thought I didn't have and it's because of sexual assualt and the pain it causes ok so open your eyes. Please help.
I did not mean any offence to the traditional ways of the Wicca and I follow them completely but I just believe that if you knew what pain this causes that there is nothing the courts could do that'd equal such atrocity and pain.

[Sastual Auxels]

Hey, thanks for your post and I know I have no right to harm anyone and never wished of doing so ever, my elements are water and fire, I never thought I had fire because like water I flow calmly and smoothly and don't like to attack or fight back at anyone, I am a nice and soothing person but this, this atrocity of what they done to her and what happened to my friend brings our the fire, the hotheaded, molten agression within.
I know I shouldn't harm anyone and I know it's wrong but please, you have to understand where I am coming from, it's not just sex it's a harsh and violent and disrespectful thing. It destroys a person and everyone has their eyes shut cus the light from this raging inferno of pain and grief is too hard to bear until you have been burnt by it and you know how much it hurts, so people keep their eyes shut and don't accept that the fire is there and push those burnt aside without care but the fire of sexual assualt is the worst pain ever and it is passed through into those around the one burnt, the ones who really care and dress the wound and watch the scars and feel the skin bubble from pain till the scar becomes them and takes hold. My name is Sastual Auxels right, rearange those letters, it spells sexual assualt ok. I know the pain of that burn, I have never felt it but watching the puss and burnt flesh and agony felt and tears that fall down is just as bad... why doesn' anyone realise this fire is real and it burns and leaves the scars worse than anything else...

[MotherSuperior]

I know the pain of sexual assault. If you or someone you know is really being assaulted or raped then you need to go to the police. No amount of posting on the internet is going to change your situation.

[sheelanagig]

Sorry I cannot supply a Hex, but I have found some information for you GF that might help.

http://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org. ... ities.html
http://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org. ... lence.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree ... ence-women
http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2009/05 ... lence_ag_1
http://www.amnesty.org.uk/content.asp?CategoryID=11227

[Moon_Stone]

I agree with Mother Superior and Sheelanagig on this, Sastual Auxels.
Your girlfriend does not need vengeance, she needs healing, someone to talk things over with, and some gentle support and understanding. Right now, she is angry. The next step will be shame and then a very strong feeling that she deserved what she was just given... that she was somehow 'asking for it.' Finally, if left unattended, it will leave her with an overall dysfunction and negative self-image. Adding some new-boyfriend inflicted vengeance to the mix will increase her feelings of shame and pain. Not only will she have been hurt through the occurrence, she caused someone else to be hurt. She would not see it as justice in the long run, just weakness- that would contribute to her negative self-image. It may not happen now, but it will. And by your taking any act of vengeance on her behalf, makes you just as dangerous as the boyfriend that raped and beat her. A distrust of you would most likely follow if you were to enact any hex against the ex-boyfriend. If you can hurt him, you can hurt her. Try looking at it from the victim's point of view.

If you truly want to help her, you need to be a strong support for her to lean on, and a compassionate, gentle soul. You need to assist her in getting some therapy to work through this as well. I was raped 15 years ago and never sought any therapy myself, so I can personally attest to the fact that "dealing with it yourself" is not enough.

I do understand that the law is not always there for those who deserve to be protected by it- and that is truly unfortunate. A report really does need to be made though, before it's too late (meaning after any assault and before she showers or does anything to clean up the evidence), so that even in the case that the law fails, the rapist has a precedent set. That means if he ever does it to anyone else, it's much more likely that the courts will believe the victim, as there's already been a prior accusation made by a different rape victim. If he's lucky enough to get off both times without penalty, if there is a third, he's now a "serial rapist" -who will most likely not be able to get out of it again- period.

Granted, it's very sad to think that three women or more would need to be raped and assaulted before the law views the man as a threat, but it may be that way. Every woman, in every case, needs to report the attack- if not for herself, for her fellow sisters.

If your girlfriend needs some council, I recommend she get in contact with RAINN (stands for Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) or at the very least, find a good online support group she can post to and know that she's not alone.

As I said, the best thing you can do is to be her support-- just be there for her and help her heal. Ultimately, that's what the goal is... right?

Bright Blessings to you both,
~MoonStone

[Starwitch Stone]

Dear Sastual,

I'm sorry for the pain you're going through. I can relate to the situation your girlfriend is going through. Things like that are difficult to recover from. Most women never really get the same sense of innocence and safety that they once had.

The courts are a joke when it comes to rape cases. I mean I guess if you want to file a police report that would probably be the "right" thing to do. But without an excessive amount of evidence, there is very little chance of him being convicted. And your girlfriend will be re-traumatized by the asshole defense lawyers who will make her out to be easy and say that she is a liar and everything else that hurts. When a rapist is prosecuted, it is really the victim who gets put on trial, not the rapist. Plus, she is usually forced to sit right in front of him and tell the story of what happened in front of all those people. As though it wasn't bad enough to live through it, now she has to endure the pain of having everyone else knowing about it AND the fear and humiliation of her ex-bf watching and having the satisfaction of seeing the damage he has done to her.

Court? Not for me. Until they are able to fix the problems that exist in the criminal justice system, there seems little point in prosecuting a rapist. They are almost NEVER convicted. It's his word against her word, and people tend to believe men over women since women are still thought by many to be "hysterical" basket cases who make up stories in order to get revenge. Even one of our forum members thought that could be the case, so you can't expect 12 stupid jury members (just idiots they picked at random who don't know anything about rape, violence, and psychopaths) to believe that a man could be so callous, so uncaring, and so brutal to a woman (a woman whom I'm sure he will claim that he loves.) And when it comes to past criminal records (if he has one) they usually don't allow that information into the case, so the jury is totally clueless as to the things this man may have done in the past.

As for serial killers being let loose, it absolutely CAN happen. Just last night I watched an episode on American Justice called "FREE - To Kill Again". Here is a summary of what happened, copied from Wikipedia:

McDuff was first convicted for raping and murdering three teenagers on August 6, 1966 — Robert Brand, Mark Dunman, and Edna Louis Sullivan — a crime that became popularly known as the Broomstick Murders. His partner, 17-year-old Roy Dale Green, was sentenced to four months house arrest and five years probation. Although McDuff was sentenced to death, the sentence was overturned when the U.S. Supreme Court abolished capital punishment in 1972. His sentence was subsequently commuted to life in prison with the possibility of parole.
As a result of overcrowding in Texas prisons,[1] McDuff was paroled in 1989. After being released, he got a job at a gas station making $4 an hour and took a class, at Texas State Technical College in Waco.[2] One year after he left his job at a gas station and dropped out of TSTC, he began killing again. Upon release McDuff was arrested on a series of parole violations, but he was never locked up for any substantial length of time until he was arrested for the murder of a 22-year-old Texan woman, Melissa Ann Northrup in 1992. He was implicated in at least three other murders, including the abduction and murder of Colleen Reed from an Austin carwash in December 1991. He was considered, but ruled out, as a suspect in the Yogurt Shop Murders case.
As a wanted fugitive, he fled to Kansas City, but was eventually captured due to a tip from a profile on the television show America's Most Wanted. McDuff was eventually sent to death row and executed on November 17, 1998 at Huntsville Unit. According to the Texas Department of Criminal Justice death row section McDuff's final words were: "I’m ready to be released. Release me."

So he murdered 3 innocent teenagers, brutally raping the girl and then he sat on top of her (her being face up) and choked her to death by pushing the broomstick down on her throat. This girl was so beautiful and young. Why do people want to destroy something so beautiful?

McDuff did go to prison for that crime and he was sentenced to death, but the Supreme Court overturned the death penalty and commutted all the death sentences to life sentences. That meant McDuff was eligible for parole.

The governor of Texas stuck a deal with the Texas Parole Board...They decided to release 160 prisoners EACH DAY due to overcrowded prisons.

From Unsolved Mysteries.com (click to read entire article):

Texas had created a big problem as a result of overcrowding and began to release offenders in order to make room for new ones. They started out with the small fish until they ran out of small fish- then began to release people such as Kenneth McDuff- who was without a doubt going to be more of a danger to society than anyone realized. In fact people from his hometown, where he returned after being paroled, were terrified. They bought guns, they locked their houses, and lived in fear of this man that they reviled and loathed because of his previous crimes. So in 1989 and fresh out of prison- McDuff got a 4.00 an hour job at a gas station where he worked for only a month before enrolling, then dropping out, at Texas State Technical College. Even though he was on parole for three heinous killings of innocent teenagers and even after committing one violation after another- plus due to the continuing overcrowding of Texas's prisons- he seemed to avoid having to face any consequences for his actions. A known racist- he even beat a black man almost to death. Still no prison time.

Anyway, he murdered woman after woman after woman (after woman) until these a$$hole police officers and the justice system decided to do something about it and hunt him down. So your girlfriend is right that murderers, even serial killers, CAN escape justice. There are plenty of criminals who murder and kidnapp people all the time and are NEVER caught.

Ted Bundy killed LOTS of women before he was caught. Then he broke out of prison (twice maybe?) and killed even MORE women. There are a lot of really bad people in the world and you can't trust the cops to take care of the situation for you.

People get away with rape, abuse, and murder all the time. There aren't enough prisons to hold them all, and we simply don't have the manpower to track them all down and prosecute them anyway.

Here are some spells that could help:

Spell to Make Someone Feel the Hurt They Caused You

Spell to Break the Ties Between You and Your Ex

And definitely see if your girlfriend will allow you to put a protection spell on her. Some women (like me) seem to attract evil people into their lives. There was a time in my life (after I learned about the Law of Attraction) when I started to understand why rapists were drawn to me. I was putting off a helpless, fearful vibe. I was small-framed and soft-spoken. Rapists look for victims they can easily overpower. They aren't typically looking for a challenge. They want to feel your fear. They enjoy the feeling of power they get when they are terrorizing you. So you have to hold your head high and never show your fear in front of men. (That's hard to do with a man who has already hurt you though.)

Your girlfriend may have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. If she is struggling with nightmares, flashbacks, exaggerated startle response, constant fear, etc. there are some therapies that can help. I haven't found regular talk therapy to be that helpful to me because it's too hard for me to open up about things that are personal (which is why only the strongest rape survivors hold up under the scrutiny and demeaning questioning in court), but there are other forms of therapy that seem to be more effective. Click below to learn more about them.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Tapping

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

It's apparently possible to retrain your mind to reprocess the traumas and get them out of the right side of your brain, which is where they cause flashbacks and nightmares and other symptoms of PTSD. I used the Tapping website video to reprocess a trauma that was causing me to have an exaggerated startle response when I was touched from behind. It really did decrease the symptoms. I should use the technique more but I haven't. Now, even if I am touched from behind, I might startle a little bit but it doesn't set my heart racing and put me into full fight/flight/freeze response.

It would be good if you could talk about your feelings with someone. Most relationships aren't able to survive rape. The boyfriend usually feels helpless, angry, vengeful, and he is pretty much consumed with his own guilt and feelings of rage. That's totally understandable that a man would feel that way, but it doesn't leave you with much strength for supporting your girlfriend, who is also suffering. If you are able to process your own feelings, you will be much more helpful to her and can support her emotionally the way she needs. Talk about wanting to hurt the guy or kill him (or curse him) is usually not helpful to the victim. If you were to kill him and get put in prison for it, then she would feel even more guilty and horrible because she'd feel responsible for that since she told you about the rape. Many women keep these things secret from their family (especially male family) for just that reason.

If you want to talk, PM me.

You might be tempted to hire a spell caster, but I would recommend against it. I'm not convinced that they are genuine.

Bright Blessings,

[Torey]

The others have given great advice and you should heed it. However, I am not a Wiccan and I do not believe in Karma, so I would be the first to say that it would be justified in your cursing this person or binding them (although there is always the chance that your own energies can become intermingled with theirs). I would just design the curse so that it has constructive results for all involved - even the offender. Not all curses are meant to destroy a person. Either way, one should always be skilled at energy manipulation and know what they are doing before cursing someone.

[Syndica]

sas darling,

i'v been rapped and left for dead, so i know what u are feeling, but in the eyes we seek justice. remember the power of the 3x3 rule will come and get him in the end. Of course you may think he's free right now by the gods his time will be at a hand. I know this for a fact he will get his due.

the man who raped me was struck by a truck, and all the people who has hurt me has paid 10 times fold. Remember things are ever what they seem to you deary. you just need to sit and wait, he will get his due when it does that will be all.

i hope this helps u dear.

[Witch13]

Never do magic with hatred in your heart. I wont say i can understand your pain since i have neve had anything like this happen to me, but you could pray to Maat the egyptian goddess of justice. That is what i know and i am telling you.

[Sastual Auxels]

I could do that but a god/goddess of justice cant help in a world where justice doesnt exist so thanks but yeah...