how do i come out?...

[XunderXtheXmoonX]

( sorry if i put this in the wrong thing)
my boyfriend doesn't know i'm a witch, and he really religious, he's a christian, and i don't know how to tell him. he needs to know, but i don't want him to get all freaked out. how do i tell him that i'm a witch?


thank you for your help,
Terra Leigh

[LUNAAMOR]

you can do what i did .
it took me more than 6 months to tell him slowly first i would say it as a joke but when he got use to it me saying that i would go and talk to him about what we belive and what we are. but remeber SLOWLY AS POSSIBLE . tell him that is not like the movies. tell them its different.
tonight im going to do my selfdedication ritual so happy and i talk about it with him so he will not bother me calling me .and he is ok with it.
good luck
paloma

[[WitchMomma]]

Hi there! How long have you been together?

Have you ever had and discussions about the topic as a topic of interest, and if so how did he react?

Personally I think whom ever your going to be with needs to accept you for the person you are. You must accept him as a Christian and hopefully he will accept you.

My mother is a strong Christian and she has accepted my belief. I explained alot about Wicca to her and showed her how beautiful it is and why I love it so much. She has known for years and years that I have always had an interest in the occult but nothing specific. I explained about Goddess and God,though she only believes in Jesus, she asked me if I can still believe in Jesus and I replied, Yes. As long as I can believe in Jesus she is fine with that. I can't say I actually believe in Jesus, but I don't think it is harming anyone by having her think that I do. We are all happy and are accepting of eachother.

I hope this is somthing you can work out with eachother and live in harmony. Hope some of this might have helped a bit.

[AkanaAnash]

The easy way is to leave a Buckland or Cunningham on the coffee table.

Let him ask the questions.

You might not be giving him enough credit...he might already know.

Another method is to take him out on a date, and give him a little
present (a talisman, pentacle or something else completely obvious)


Other than that, you might try taking him to your favorite new-age store...

Thet

[Blazewind]

My ex-boyfriend found out when he found me reading one of my books in bed one night. Sure enought he began to ask a bit about it o0nce in a while. he was never greatly interested in it, but he was not dead against it either. My advice would be jsut what Thet said. Leave one of your books out somewhere. Or do like I did and not care to much if he finds your reading it.

[Heka]

my bf grew up home schooled in a very christian family. he him self is christian. wen he asked me out the first thing i did was tell him i was a witch/pagan/wiccan etc and see his response. i told him that this is who i am and if you wanna be with me youv gotta accept it. he was really good about it tho. he looks at things ive got weirdly but i enjoy stiring him up. hes even asked questions about moon worship and such.

id say just let him ask the questions like Thet said. if it doesnt work out thatll suck but hopefully its ok. mayb hell be intrested

Blessings and luck

Heka

[Shaman of Bliss]

You know this isn't going to help much, but I guess its a warning.

I left my book out one day on the coffee table, my mother picked it up and read it. Basically over the next few weeks she began to ask about it, yada yada, and soon I was sobbing, so was she because all of her Christian beliefs told her what I was doing was wrong, and I was sobbing because i felt like my mom didn't love me anymore.

She could handle me being gay because I couldn't choose that, but me being Pagan, that I chose! Phewy!

She kept saying, (and you might get this argument) that I was missing all the good things about God, and Christianity. That I had given up to early, I just had a hard time believing God could change so quickly after the whole Sodom and Gimora incident. I couldn't be happy worshiping God, I knew I was lying to myself to say I could.

I became Pagan, I love it. I truly do, my mother cant understand it though. She found out about five months ago and its still driving a wedge between us. Its really hard, cause my mother was my rock. She always loved me, she was my guardian, and without her my life wouldn't be anywhere near where it is now. I bring up the connection because you have a good connection and relationship with your BF, if your wondering why.

She still tells me that she worries for my "eternal life". It hurts, I hope you don't have to go through something like that, but f*ck it hurts.


I only wish you the best, as you've read from the earlier posts it can work out, and I'm betting it will, just, be aware of what I've said, It may happen, though I pray it never befalls you.

Blessed be the path you walk,

-Shaman of Bliss

[angelwitch]

Hello Terra Leigh

I was really worried when I met my boyfriend (We are now engaged) but he is Catholic (not practicing) but his family are.

Very difficult situation as, his Ex-girlfriend who he has two children with are also Catholic. I was thinking woooo how i am going to aproach this??

But gradually, I think he kinda relised. I left my books out, he couldn´t miss my broom, witches, pentacle etc. In the end I told him and explained to him my beliefs, which he excepted with no problem.

I do not think his ex-girlfriend knows, nor do I think his mother does (being strict Catholic) but im sure it will be ok in time.

At the end of the day, I am me, and if a person loves you they will accept you for who you are, he bought me a hand made pentacle a couple of weeks ago just for a gift. I think that, that says more than words.

Ok so sometimes he smiles when im "collecting" rain water or cleansing and dedicating a tool. But sometimes I do catch him with his nose in my books!

I hope it all works out for you to Terra.