Hey everyone,
I really need your help, I've become depressed and stressful about nothing at all, as my life feels like it's empty, if someone asks why am I depressed, to tell you the truth I have no idea why?
Everything is better than before, so I don't know why I have these negative feelings.
Perhaps, if I want to analyze myself, it is my love life, I've dated and met men but mostly hurt by them and nothing leads to even a decent relationship, I felt so used. But I also want to point out of because of my bitterness, I have hurt someone's feelings and I lost the chance of being with him.
I felt there is a huge negativity clogging in my heart that need cleansing, and this prevents me from meeting the right man or to even start a relationship with any. So I am contradicting myself, I don't want to be alone but I'm pushing the right man away while keeping the jerks on my speed dial.
Please help me.
Thank you, I appreciate it.
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[HangedMan]
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severe depression: been there, done that.
i still even have a slight twinge of it, esp. lately due to some stress i'm going through.
but anyway... i just want to let you know first and foremost-- as someone who's been through the ringer the past few years with her good ol' pal depression-- that it does get better, even though you don't feel like it will. there were times when i was just like, "what's the point of it all?" i found joy in absolutely nothing, except maybe in the idea that i could die in my sleep. lol. sorry, don't mean to sound morbid, but i'm sure you can understand just how truthful a statement that is.
anyway, as for the man thing, here's my advice: before you even start worrying about getting this man or having that man, you need to work on yourself. being alone is not bad at all. as a matter of fact, i think once you can become comfortable in the idea that you can be alone and be happy without someone, you will start attracting good men into your life. i think when you're too co-dependent or scared you won't find anyone and die alone and miserable, you just attract that negative energy. and when the first guy comes along you latch onto right away b/c you are afraid to be alone.
what worked for me (and is still working for me) to get out of this frump, is to do the following:
1. if you don't already have a good diet/exercise routine, make one up and stick to it. exercise really helps alleviate depression, as does eating good, whole foods (i.e. fruits, veggies).
2. find a friend or even a therapist to talk to. just someone whom you can unload on.
3. when you start taking the focus off of yourself, and not living in your own mind, you'll see things aren't so bad. this is one of my MAJOR pitfalls. i sit around thinking like i'm socrates and mulling over the world's problems until i'm drowning in my own self-loathing and pity. so, learn from me and don't do that! lol
go volunteer your time to a charity/cause you believe in. it will really help to get your mind in a more positive mode.
4. as for the man thing, i'll refer you to this "law of attraction" post i wrote for another member on this board. try doing what i said here-- it might really help you out:
http://www.everythingunderthemoon.net/f ... php?t=8685
okay, hope everything goes well for you. if you have any questions or problems, feel free to PM me.
i still even have a slight twinge of it, esp. lately due to some stress i'm going through.
but anyway... i just want to let you know first and foremost-- as someone who's been through the ringer the past few years with her good ol' pal depression-- that it does get better, even though you don't feel like it will. there were times when i was just like, "what's the point of it all?" i found joy in absolutely nothing, except maybe in the idea that i could die in my sleep. lol. sorry, don't mean to sound morbid, but i'm sure you can understand just how truthful a statement that is.
anyway, as for the man thing, here's my advice: before you even start worrying about getting this man or having that man, you need to work on yourself. being alone is not bad at all. as a matter of fact, i think once you can become comfortable in the idea that you can be alone and be happy without someone, you will start attracting good men into your life. i think when you're too co-dependent or scared you won't find anyone and die alone and miserable, you just attract that negative energy. and when the first guy comes along you latch onto right away b/c you are afraid to be alone.
what worked for me (and is still working for me) to get out of this frump, is to do the following:
1. if you don't already have a good diet/exercise routine, make one up and stick to it. exercise really helps alleviate depression, as does eating good, whole foods (i.e. fruits, veggies).
2. find a friend or even a therapist to talk to. just someone whom you can unload on.
3. when you start taking the focus off of yourself, and not living in your own mind, you'll see things aren't so bad. this is one of my MAJOR pitfalls. i sit around thinking like i'm socrates and mulling over the world's problems until i'm drowning in my own self-loathing and pity. so, learn from me and don't do that! lol
go volunteer your time to a charity/cause you believe in. it will really help to get your mind in a more positive mode.4. as for the man thing, i'll refer you to this "law of attraction" post i wrote for another member on this board. try doing what i said here-- it might really help you out:
http://www.everythingunderthemoon.net/f ... php?t=8685
okay, hope everything goes well for you. if you have any questions or problems, feel free to PM me.
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[HangedMan]
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